Guys who don’t tell you they have a girlfriend
I can’t help feeling like it’s something I’m doing, some flaw in my personality or approach. This has happened to me enough times to make me think that I’m getting more than my fair share.
I am merely seeking to meet new people, to make friends. Is it so hard to believe I just want to be friends with a guy? When I meet a guy and when he doesn’t tell me he has a girlfriend, I feel like I’ve been led to believe some alternate truth by omission.
Some of my friends have told me that I might be coming off the wrong way with these guys-that perhaps I approach them under the guise of a single girl looking to hook up.
Maybe they want to have their cake and eat it too. Maybe they’re just pussies who don’t want to be seen as taken, when they in fact are just that.
I know girls must do this too, but I am not one of those girls. I may have been in some weaker moments, but I am not now. I just think girls who sit there and go on and on about their boyfriends are annoying- and the same for guys. I understand that guys may think that if they mention a girlfriend, that I will no longer talk to them and if they value my company at all, they have something to lose. I guess they have to have a little more confidence in me than that, because if they don’t I will lose all confidence in them.
Don’t flatter yourself. Just tell me the truth up front and let me decide if I can trust you as a friend.
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you didn’t tell me you had a bf….LIAR! =P
JACK BAUER!!!!!!
please!!!!!!!
if you tell a girl that you meet for the first time that you have a GF…
the conversation comes to an adrupt end.
i told u oppa. stop bringing up JACK BAUER. dont make me post wat u said bout MICHELE and your C_ _ K in her
M_ _ _ H.
Yea, I used to feel that way, until i realized that in NY, anything’s fair game. I won’t steal anyone’s bf , because i personally think it’s tacky, however, i will do what’s in my power to have him come to me on his own free will. If the guy shows interest, he is obviously not into her enough. Also shows he’s a dog, but aren’t we all in the name of love.
C_ _ K in her M _ _ _ H. Duh. I wonder what that says?
i didnt want to type it out. it soooo perverted and that is SOOOO not MY STYLE.
guess who?!? heehehe…
i agree with tofu.
conversations indeed come to an abrupt end once you find out the guy you’re having an in depth conversation with blurts out he has a significant other.
i slowly back away…
albiet, i’m only “looking” to make a new friend, but once that “girlfriend” word is uttered, if i keep up the conversation, the boy is naturally going to think i don’t give a rats ass whether or not he has one or not.
to him…i could just be another skank who wants fool around regardless of his “taken” status.
no dice.
men have a funny way of judging what is bangable or not.
typo
albeit.
shthefuqup.
It’s weird that guys do that. Why would u not say it? I don’t get it either…and I think that type of omission is a lie too. Buggy.
I can’t be friends w/ guys. If they are close friends (not tied to a girl), I end up wanting them.
Oh well.
but with koreans……everybody already knows who is single and who is not even before they meet each other….knowwhatimean?
that cuz koreans are so freakin nosy. all up in daaaa busssineeeessss.
choi you had your cock in her mouth????
who is michelle????
can i meet her???
The line that always works for me is “I don’t want to know your name nor do I want to get to know you, but lets have SEX!” comes to mind when I read this.
Works like a charm, and noone’s the wiser
What the heck is this? You have a boyfriend???
Why don’t you just ask every guy you meet if they have a gf right off the bat? that way you know right away.
I think it’s a weird thing to bring up in the conversation unless it’s in the natural course of the conversation. You can talk to someone for hours without bringing up a gf or bf. Unless both parties are purely interested in knocking boots.
Don’t you think it’d be a little ackward for a guy you just met to say, hi, i’m jim, I have a gf….but how are you tonight? weird. It also makes the guy seem to be a bit high on himself, like he’s gotta beat the women back with a stick or something b/c they all want to get with him.
why should i have to ask? if something bout relationships comes up then the person should say whether or not they have a significant other.
Interesting topic, I love the way you write by the way.
It’s annoying when guys pretend they don’t have a gf.
But on the flip side, isn’t it also annoying when guys come out and say they have a gf when no one asks? Then that just makes it seem as though he thinks you’re interested in him and saying it to fend you off. I’ve had that happen to me once. I was chit chatting with a guy just as friends, and he comes out and says he has a gf. I wasn’t even interested in him, but he probably thinks I was.
If you want to know if they have a gf, just ask. Otherwise, how often do people come out and say they have a gf/bf out of the blue?